Holiday Weekend

Our holiday weekend was superb.

The week before, Ryan had a Thanksgiving feast at his school. They set up two long tables and had all of the students sitting together. It was darling.

We then took the kids to see Peter Pan! Jake and Cita brought Jakey and Aaliyah. Everyone was dressed up and ready for some Neverland. We got to see the legendary Cathy Rigby as Peter Pan. The show was very well done with lively music, lots of flying and endless pixie dust. Aaliyah was very disappointed that when Peter Pan flew over the audience, no dust landed on her. Her auntie will remedy that for Christmas. She will be getting extra special pixie dust!

Thanksgiving morning we took advantage of the beautiful weather and went on a hike at Rancho San Antonio. It was a perfect way to start the day.

We got cleaned up and headed to my parents' house. Haley LOVES turkey. I mean LOVES. She was very excited to baste the bird every time the oven door was opened.

Holidays are a big deal in my family. We were raised that you get dressed nice and treat the day differently. My mom spent time setting a beautiful table with fresh flowers and china. So much love and time spent on the little details. This includes all homemade food. DELICIOUS food that takes hours to prep and cook.

The time was so wonderful with immediate and extended family.

On Black Friday we braved Santana Row. I just love to go out with the crowds and wait in long lines during all of the chaos. Actually, I don't. Haley's Brownie troop was participating the the One Warm Coat drive and we delivered our coats that day. The boys dropped us off so we didn't need to deal with parking. I thought, since we were there, that we could poke into H&M. I walked in, checked out a few things, saw the crazy lines, and walked out. I used to work retail. I have had enough Black Fridays in the mall.

The next morning we woke up and got everything down from the attic. We played holiday music and enjoyed decorating the house.
Sunday we spent with Jason. Another exceptional holiday in the books!

The Sweetest Homecoming

Yesterday Jason came home. I have not seen him for more than 5 years. To say I was anxious for his arrival is an understatement. I have written about Jason before in this previous post. I cannot tell you how joyful his homecoming felt. The kids were all over him- he had not met any of his nieces or nephew, except for Haley. The last time he saw her she was almost 2. I am so hopeful for him and so glad that the message was sent loud and clear that we are all glad he is home and we want him back in our lives.
From here he deals with life after prison- parole, program, a sober living environment. We are glad he was able to figure out a way to do this all close to home. We feel great that he is here.
Yesterday was filled with laughing, real conversation and good food (he requested burgers, garlic bread and Mom's German chocolate cake). I really took notice when it was time for dinner and, without saying anything, we all sat in our old spots at the table. All of the family filled in around the spots that were originally the 5 we sat at growing up.
It hit me that we had NEVER all been together like this before. The five of us, with our spouses and kids- EVERYONE there. My heart was filled and I soaked in the moment.
I look forward to having Jason back. As kids, most of my time with him was spent laughing. We haven't really known each other as adults.
I cherish the idea that we have a new start.
What a perfect end to the Thanksgiving holiday.

New

The Mazda Tribute has treated us well. We have gone on many a road trip as a family in that car. We brought both of our children home from the hospital in that car. It has carried Haley to her first days of school, and Ryan to his first day of preschool. It has gone back and forth to Santa Clara approximately 1500 times. It has been spilled in, barfed in, laughed in and sung in.

It kept us safe. It was 8 years old when we kissed it goodbye.

 I look forward to 8 passengers. It is time. We are into carpools and inviting friends and family. This weekend we bought a new car. I LOVE IT. It feels safe and roomy and luxurious. I look forward to this car carrying my kids as kids, adolescents, and teens and friends and nieces and nephews. Having a new car makes me giddy. I feel proud of the deal I got (Josh was out of town and I didn't anticipate nor can I believe I did this on my own, keeping him updated along the way) but even more, feel so thrilled to have a car that has been a dream car. I bought this car and made the very first sale to the 19 year old who sold it to me. I loved him. The perfect salesperson. He called to let me know he sold 3 additional cars yesterday and I beamed like a proud mother. :)
It is all fantastic.

Dear Mom and Dad,

Thank you for:
- getting up with me in the middle of the night when I was a baby.

- dealing with my poop and vomit.

-adjusting your whole life for me and Jake and Jason.

- teaching me manners (especially when you would take out the play phone and teach me phone manners)

- not letting me get a digital watch until I could read a second hand watch.

- having me order for myself at restaurants instead of speaking for me.

- teaching me how to use a map.

-taking us camping and instilling  a true LOVE of nature.

- modeling that a healthy marriage includes time as a couple.

- both working full time yet not missing any of our events or games.

- giving us chores and responsibilities.

- cooking a homemade meal every single work night even though we complained about it.

- instilling a LOVE of music by playing it all the time.

- taking us on trips to Disneyland and San Diego.

- letting me go for anything I was interested in and then funding whatever it entailed (uniforms, competition fees, trip fees, etc.)

- treating me with respect from childhood to now.

- setting rules and boundaries and giving consequences when they were broken.

- sticking to your word.

- modeling the golden rule.

- big homemade breakfasts.

- instilling values that I believe in as an adult.

- limiting our TV time.

- expecting us to always do our best in school and having school be our number one priority.

- all the money you have spent on me/us.

- a perfect wedding.

- your patience.

- Sunday drives.

- providing a household where we felt safe.

- providing a household where we laughed every single day.

- hosting parties and teaching me the love of opening up my home.

- sending me to college.

- having me be responsible for a portion of my tuition.

- showing what a strong marriage looks like and what it goes through.

-loving us.

You have done so much for  Jake and Jason and me. The list goes on and on. I feel blessed to have you as my parents. I don't know a lot of people who have what I have.

Very Well Put

This morning I read Jenny's blog and this is what she included.

I called my dad... I then asked him about the elections and if he had any wise words for me. He stated, “My advice has not changed. I still believe in respecting our President and Presidential candidates and their families. I genuinely desire our elected officials to succeed, even if I didn’t vote for them, because that is what is best for our family and country. I will also continue to encourage you and others to never miss an opportunity to vote.” Yes.

This is exactly what I needed to read this morning. My last post about the election felt a bit clunky. These words resonate with me. 

Haley

Haley is having another successful year at school. She is doing well and has made some new friends. She earned an award at her school assembly for "Always Working Her Hardest in Math." I took the day off to be there and you should have seen her face when she walked in the auditorium to see her parents, grandparents, family friend, auntie and cousin in the audience. It was awesome.

Haley was a wolf for Halloween this year.I don't know where she came up with the idea, but she knew that's what she wanted to be so we hunted for the right costume. I loved it and so did she.

She just finished her season by getting the player of the game bear. She was very excited about keeping it for the week and then handing it back next week. This very well could be her last season. Although, this time last year I said the same thing and she signed up. Most of the season she spent skipping and hopping around the field, and around the ball. The last few games and practices she looked like a different player. Her head was down, she followed through, she went after the ball. very fun  to watch her improve that way. She felt good about it too.

She is growing more independent by the day. She is healthy and caring and playful.So blessed.

Ryan

The kids just finished their soccer season. It was Ryan's first. We nicknamed his team the Bad News Bears. They did not score a single goal all season, BUT by the end of the season, they did know which direction to run.

How did Ryan like soccer? I'd say he liked it ok. He enjoyed practices more than games. He liked playing (not soccer- just playing) with the other boys. Let's say he was never disappointed when it was his quarter sitting out. When on the field, he could be found running around (usually no where near the ball) and playing with his friends. Josh helped coach. He earned his plaque and movie gift card from the team. His most common quotes included, "hands to yourself", "go to the ball","stand up",  "we're going the other way"...just to name a few.

Ryan is fully adjusted to preschool and loves his time there. Each night, at the dinner table, he tells us his rose and thorn. His rose usually involves who he played with and what they played. His thorn always includes rest time. This week we have our conference with his teacher so we can see how he's doing in school. I can see that he is really improving in his fine motor skills.

Socially, he is as he always has been. He is the funniest person in our house (sorry Josh). He gets very frustrated if you don't give him your full attention or if you don't answer his question- example:

 "How much longer until my play date?" 

Answer: "1 more hour". 

"No, HOW MUCH longer?"

Ummm...that was the answer.

He is an active, healthy, fun little guy.So blessed.

Halloween

What fun ages for Halloween this year. The kids were beyond excited and had bursts of energy going from house to house.

This year Haley wanted to be a wolf. At first, everything I found was just too old or too gross. A lot involved those big masks and Haley didn't want to wear a mask. I don't blame her. I was online looking for fur and came upon this costume. She loved it!

Ryan was a hamburger for school (his costume from 2 years ago) and Spiderman for home (his dress up from last year). Needless to say we were very happy with the cost of his costumes this year. His friend was a hot dog at school How cute is that?

Each year the kids call what they want their jack-o-lanterns to look like. Ryan just said Spiderman, so Josh and I worked together on that one. Haley drew out her design and also drew it onto the pumpkin. Classic jack-o-lantern design. We all worked on gutting the pumpkins and making roasted seeds all while listening to the Halloween party mix on Pandora. :) Such fun.

Both kids marched in their school parades. Thanks to some colleagues I was able to join Ryan's parade for about 20 minutes. Imagine little preschoolers parading around downtown. Adorable and hilarious! I successful Halloween.

The Election

Every election brings out such passion in people. This election is no different. We all have our opinions. We all get a vote.

Every 4 years I am amazed at how passion can turn nasty and hurtful. I was just talking to my family about how I do not fear a healthy debate.I am disappointed when some people don't know how to listen to both sides and perhaps reconsider their thinking. I do it ALL the time. One of the reasons I like these discussions or disagreements is that they challenge me to explore my thoughts and feelings in a way that may be new to me. I have been known to change my mind and often will say. "You're right. I've never thought of it that way." I get frustrated when other people can't do that. I have witnessed so many personal attacks of ones intelligence, opinions and values. It's sad when it gets to that point. I love the passion. I hate the tension.

This election seems more crucial for our country than the one 4 years ago.Perhaps that is always the case? I am often surprised at how many people, in my generation, do not see things the same way I do. I mean, my thinking is the right, just way of thinking. Right?! Ok, that's strong, but obviously we all feel right and just in our opinions.I thought my way of thinking was a sign of my generation and my upbringing. A man, who grew up three doors down from me in the same neighborhood, in the same schools, with the same "type" of people, has complete opposite thoughts than I do. I find it so interesting!

I hope the election goes my way as everyone does for themselves. I do feel patriotic. I will ROCK the vote.

Catching Up

I have not been making the time to blog. I will be writing a few posts to get caught up. Life is great. All are healthy (knock on wood).

I want to start by writing about me. Things are especially fabulous right now. I am having one of the best school years so far. We have just a good group of kids this year. So many people react when they learn I am a middle school teacher. The reaction usually includes a sour face or a comment like "You are brave." I love this age! I am so glad I am in this job to see that kids are still just kids. So many things lead us to believe that kids are different these days. They really aren't. Maybe things just weren't as obvious when we were kids.

There are still the innocent and not so innocent kids (with the majority being innocent). We still have the easy and challenging kids (with the majority being easy). We still have the students who care and are helpful and kind and the kids who bully because something bigger is going on with them (with the majority being those who are kind and caring and helpful).

I do struggle when I find myself defending kids when the perception is that kids are so much tougher these days. They aren't. The difference really includes the technology available to them now and all that it entails. We, as adults, need to teach them and guide them, just as adults have done for generations and generations. Are there some kids who have issues? Yes. Are there students who are struggling and making bad, even horrible choices? Yes. There always have been and there always will be. There is also far more awareness that we bring to the kids about all of these social issues. Kids are more open with adults and adults with kids and this is a great thing!

Kids are awesome. If you don't believe me, go observe any school for a day. You will see playful, eager, kind, sensitive children who just want to do well. I do not fear this generation in the future as I have heard some people say. I think we are in great hands.